Well, THERE'S NO SUCH THING, THERE'S NO SUCH THING, THERE'S NO SUCH THING!!!
Yeah, you read it right. There's no such "thing" as love. There's no such "thing" as passion. There's no such "thing" as attraction or chemistry or lust.
I know, I know, you're saying. That's the problem ... for most of you, most of the time and I say there's no such thing.
But that's not what I'm talking about, so pay close attention. I'm not saying that people don't experience states of "attraction" or "chemistry" or "love". What I am saying is that these states are processes that take place inside the human mind and body.
Ok. Since I'm being pretty general and theoretical here let's get a bit more specific and talk about what every man dreams about: falling in love.
Now, do you think "love" is based on some mysterious "chemistry" that flows between two people? Maybe it's caused by a naked little angel named Cupid who shoots an arrow into your ass?
No, Here's how people fall in love: First, understand you do NOT fall in love with someone when you are in their presence. Never.
You fall in love when you're off by yourself, thinking about them afterwards. Let's take an example to understand how it happens: you go out with a beautiful girl, maybe even one date. You spend some quality time with her and then you go home and you're lying there, thinking about her. And you form an image of her in your mind. And as you do that, you start to list to yourself all the qualities about her that you like, "She's so... , she's so... , she's really..."
Maybe then you picture you and her having lots of fun in all sorts of situations. Then you get that warm, funny feeling right in your solar plexus and then, the nail in your coffin, you say her name to yourself 2 or 3 times. If you're really a geek, maybe you even dance around the house singing it! Or you possibly go about bring up her name in every conversation.
Sound familiar? Now, as you recall the times in your past when you did this, were you then able to stay cool, in control of yourself AND the relationship? Or were you calling her every day, always wanting to see her, and eager to kiss her ass, to the point where she, of course, dropped you?
Here's the point: "love" is a process people do to themselves! It's not a "thing" you trip over or a "hole" you fall into. And I know, even though I'm not there watching you that as I describe it here on this blog, you recalled and went through that process yourself, and recalled the feelings associated with it.
So if you can make someone feel a strong sense of attraction + a strong sense of connection (rapport) for you, which lasts even when you are not around, and can systematically amplify it further, you can almost make anybody fall in love with you.
BUT, BUT, BUT in real world , it's not as EASY as it sounds. ONE goof up is enough to ruin all your chances with your DREAM GIRL and can put you in a damage control mode forever.
Remember they say it for a reason... PRACTICE makes a man PERFECT. ;O)
PS: You enjoyed reading it. Now it's time to share the URL with your friends and colleagues! ;O)
-AG
Tuesday, April 29, 2008
Friday, April 25, 2008
HOW TO IMPRESS HER???
I've learned a secret to impress the woman of your dreams (if you can find one at first place) which I'm gonna share today. It's a secret that probably not 1 in 1,000 men knows or will ever figure out on his own.
The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it's TOO OBVIOUS.
Let me explain...
I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he's talking to a woman he's just met or a woman that he's on a first date with, you can SEE IT.
Maybe you've been there yourself so many times. The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: I DON'T WANNA SCREW THIS UP.
Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he's talking to:
1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress" the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes coming across as "formal".
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn't like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease the woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her.
...in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes", he's usually on his "best behavior", and he's trying to "put his best foot forward".
SSHHHHHHH THE SECRET
The secret to impress an attractive woman is STOP TRYING to impress her.
If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I'm teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you. TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER.
So let's break this down...
WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD
You might think, what’s wrong with trying to "impress" women, anyway?
Well, to start with, EVERYTHING.
When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a "subtle" level:
1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead.
2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I'm insecure.
4) I don't know how to make people around feel comfortable with me.
Ouch! But it's the truth.
Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying".
The conversation doesn't feel "normal", your body language is strange, and you can't seem to have a normal conversation. The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.
It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can't make normal conversation... it also BORES THE HELL OUT OF WOMEN.
WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before... She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1) "Well, I'm a software engineer for one of the biggest IT companies in India that makes sophisticated widget plotting algorithms. I've been with them for three years, and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER soon."
2) "I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when an actor has to reveal his ass? Body double - That's my job."
If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine. Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool.
If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2.
Because most men don't have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a "serious" question like "Wat do you do?".
If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING. She'll say "No, really... what do you do?".
Answer with: "No, really. Haven't you seen Saawariya??? That much talked about towel dropping scene? It wasn’t Ranveer… it was actuallyyy… (give a pause and do overacting of feeling shy) … me! (say with a sly smile)".
Makes sense? Yes? good. No? even better because that's how Attraction works. It almost always defies Logic. Try not to give a direct answer to a Woman unless it's No. Make her work a little to get something out of you. Such behavior creates all sort of powerful emotions... curiosity, mystery, humor and fun.
The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.
And it's the one thing that will make women pursue YOU... and try to impress YOU.
What's the best way to do this?
1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.
2) Be a regular to my blog for more ;O)
PS: You enjoyed reading it. Now it's time to share the URL with your friends and colleagues! ;O)
-AG
The REASON that most men will never figure out this particular secret is that it's TOO OBVIOUS.
Let me explain...
I personally think that most men feel a very powerful desire to IMPRESS women. If you watch the way a man behaves when he's talking to a woman he's just met or a woman that he's on a first date with, you can SEE IT.
Maybe you've been there yourself so many times. The feeling that you need to impress a woman usually comes along with another feeling: I DON'T WANNA SCREW THIS UP.
Here are some of the signs that a guy is feeling the need to "impress" the woman that he's talking to:
1) He tries to only say "cool" things, or things that will "impress" the woman.
2) He acts nervous and stilted during the conversation... sometimes coming across as "formal".
3) He tries to figure out what the woman wants to hear.
4) If he says something that the woman doesn't like, he "back-pedals" and tries to change what he said to suit the woman.
5) He doesn't say anything "risky", doesn't tease the woman, and doesn't do anything to upset her.
...in other words, when a guy is talking to a woman that he "likes", he's usually on his "best behavior", and he's trying to "put his best foot forward".
SSHHHHHHH THE SECRET
The secret to impress an attractive woman is STOP TRYING to impress her.
If you will just STOP TRYING to impress women, and do the things I'm teaching you instead, women will NATURALLY be "impressed" by you. TRYING TO IMPRESS A WOMAN DOESN'T IMPRESS HER.
So let's break this down...
WHY IMPRESSING WOMEN IS THE WRONG ROAD
You might think, what’s wrong with trying to "impress" women, anyway?
Well, to start with, EVERYTHING.
When you intentionally try to impress a woman, you send the following messages on a "subtle" level:
1) I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I will try to "impress" you instead.
2) I'm not comfortable enough around women to just act normal.
3) I'm insecure.
4) I don't know how to make people around feel comfortable with me.
Ouch! But it's the truth.
Women can TELL INSTANTLY when you're "trying".
The conversation doesn't feel "normal", your body language is strange, and you can't seem to have a normal conversation. The bottom line is that trying to impress a woman usually has the OPPOSITE effect.
It not only makes you look like a nervous guy who can't make normal conversation... it also BORES THE HELL OUT OF WOMEN.
WHAT TO DO INSTEAD
OK, so you're out having a cup of tea with a beautiful woman you just met a few days before... She asks you what you do for a living.
Should you answer with:
1) "Well, I'm a software engineer for one of the biggest IT companies in India that makes sophisticated widget plotting algorithms. I've been with them for three years, and I'm about to be promoted to ALGORITHM MANAGER soon."
2) "I do stunt work. Have you ever seen it in a movie when an actor has to reveal his ass? Body double - That's my job."
If you want to try and IMPRESS the girl with your cool high-tech job, then #1 will work just fine. Unfortunately, it won't impress her at all, and it will make you sound like a jackass who is trying to sound cool.
If you want to ACTUALLY impress her, try #2.
Because most men don't have the BALLS to say something like this when a woman asks a "serious" question like "Wat do you do?".
If you REALLY want to make a long-lasting impression, KEEP THE HUMOR GOING. She'll say "No, really... what do you do?".
Answer with: "No, really. Haven't you seen Saawariya??? That much talked about towel dropping scene? It wasn’t Ranveer… it was actuallyyy… (give a pause and do overacting of feeling shy) … me! (say with a sly smile)".
Makes sense? Yes? good. No? even better because that's how Attraction works. It almost always defies Logic. Try not to give a direct answer to a Woman unless it's No. Make her work a little to get something out of you. Such behavior creates all sort of powerful emotions... curiosity, mystery, humor and fun.
The most IMPORTANT thing you can do to IMPRESS a woman is make her feel a powerful emotional ATTRACTION for you. This feeling will stay with her long after you have left and gone home.
And it's the one thing that will make women pursue YOU... and try to impress YOU.
What's the best way to do this?
1) Stop trying to IMPRESS women. Stop now.
2) Be a regular to my blog for more ;O)
PS: You enjoyed reading it. Now it's time to share the URL with your friends and colleagues! ;O)
-AG
PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book. David is a renowned dating guru himself.
Tuesday, April 22, 2008
Why you should NOT be NICE to women?
I know a lot of guys who tell me, "I know this girl who's beautiful, smart n attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common n we get along perfectly... but she says that she's just not attracted to me..."
Have you ever noticed that:
1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them "very" well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she often seems to act like "just a friend" to you?
What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be"nice" to girls?
Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident and mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'2" tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with ur personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
Actually...
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential and once her decision is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously," meaning that women make all of them quickly n at a "gut level."
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something else... and I don't mean "not nice."
So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly?
At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities: Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.
As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be. And if you combine this with the right amount of humor, you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.
Here are a few ways to use this idea:
1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on. For example, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?"
If you tease a woman, it shows that you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. Remember, if she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!
2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her. Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend.
Attractive women are approached all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when you look like you've just met Aishwarya Bachchan ;)
3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "Tell me about ur family." Come back with funny answers and don't give her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a student." BORING, BORING.
If she asks what you do... say, "I'm a model... I've done modelling for the big brands like Jockey and Hanes!" (This is especially funny if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It's important to remember that I'm not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling you to start being confident, funny and mysterious.
If this is starting to make sense to you and you'd like to know more keep a watch on the coming posts.
-AG
Have you ever noticed that:
1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them "very" well?
2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she often seems to act like "just a friend" to you?
What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be"nice" to girls?
Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident and mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'2" tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with ur personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.
Actually...
1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential and once her decision is made, it's probably going to stay made.
2) These decisions are made "subconsciously," meaning that women make all of them quickly n at a "gut level."
3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.
4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something else... and I don't mean "not nice."
So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly?
At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities: Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.
Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.
As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be. And if you combine this with the right amount of humor, you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.
Here are a few ways to use this idea:
1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on. For example, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?"
If you tease a woman, it shows that you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. Remember, if she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!
2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her. Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend.
Attractive women are approached all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when you look like you've just met Aishwarya Bachchan ;)
3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "Tell me about ur family." Come back with funny answers and don't give her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a student." BORING, BORING.
If she asks what you do... say, "I'm a model... I've done modelling for the big brands like Jockey and Hanes!" (This is especially funny if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.
It's important to remember that I'm not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling you to start being confident, funny and mysterious.
If this is starting to make sense to you and you'd like to know more keep a watch on the coming posts.
-AG
PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book. David is a renowned dating guru himself.
Tuesday, April 8, 2008
How Women Respond To Various Personality Types
I believe that Women are programmed from birth by their genes, as well as by society to respond UNCONSCIOUSLY to two different types of men that fit their mental pictures.
In psychology, the term 'archetype' is used to describe a mental structure that operates on an unconscious level. I'm going to use the term 'personality types' here to describe this concept.
In a nutshell:
* I believe that women respond automatically to certain men and that most of this response is based on the man's personality, communication, achievements, etc. - not his looks (don't get me wrong. Looks are important. But they're not nearly as important in the long run as personality).
* Women are usually not consciously aware of why they react to these Personality Types.
* There are also several 'unsuccessful' personality types. By unsuccessful, I mean that these types are not attractive to most women. (If you're one of these, don't take it personally. Try
something different.)
THE BAD BOY
Someone who's dangerous and thrilling to be around. Bad boys are everything from gangsters to bikers to some rock and roll musicians. These guys are usually tough, dress tough, and act tough as often as possible. They drink, smoke, get tattoos, and generally demonstrate in every way possible that they're from the wrong side of the tracks, and your mother would not approve. A lot of these guys wind up beating their girlfriends and spending time in jail.
There is an addictive emotional rush being around a guy that could literally do ANYTHING. Anyway, I wouldn't recommend being the extreme version of this one. You can get a tattoo and buy a Harley and act all bad, but it's really not making to you a better person. I have to mention that this personality type is the one that women are most MAGNETICALLY attracted to. Again, this is because of the addictive rush that comes from being around them.
THE ADVENTURER
Someone who's fun and exciting to be around. The Adventurer is constantly looking for the next fun experience. Adventurers love to go surfing, skiing, racing, bungee-jumping, and skydiving. Think James Bond. They are fearless. Instead of being bad to get thrills, they usually like to do crazy things to get thrills. Their appeal is much the same as the Bad Boy, except that these guys don't usually wind up beating their women. Women like to be around them because they drive fast, go interesting places, and generally have a sense of 'adventure' about everything they do.
They have the attitude of "What adventure is waiting around the next corner" - even if they're just going out to lunch. Women are attracted to them because they are a kick to be around - and they often have more than one woman at a time. And women totally accept this from them. Women usually understand on an unconscious level that this is the type of guy that loves more than one woman. They have extreme optimism, which women LOVE. Again, Adventurers are usually in control in relationships, and can never be tamed. Most of the Adventurers types are known to cheat on their girlfriends.
THE SEDUCER
Someone who is sensual and sexy and makes her feel the same. Seducers are all about women. They understand women completely. As a matter of fact, I sometimes think that maybe they were women in past lives or something. To most men, a Seducer seems bizarre, and even slightly homosexual. They do things that are pretty far out. Watch the movie 'Don Juan DeMarco' with Johnny Depp. This movie is the epitome of the Seducer. Don Juan can only see the world through his romantic perspective, which is magnetic to women. Seducers are usually submissive, as they are constantly pleasing the woman, and paying careful attention to her needs.
The flip side is that as soon as they have gotten what they want from a woman, they're gone. Sure, they may come back for romantic evenings, but they are not often around for the long term.
THE ARTIST (Musician, Poet)
Someone who moves her emotions and is enigmatic and complex. Why do women love guys who have complex, introverted personalities? I believe that the answer lies inside the psyche of women. Women like to have challenges, and they like to help people. The Artist personality is both complex and in need of help and understanding.Most Artists see the world much differently than other people. They look at tree and see a giant feather duster, or they see a color and can taste it.
Women can usually understand the Artist's expressions better than other men can. And they are usually very attracted to these personalities for this very reason. The Artist needs someone to understand them, and there's always a woman who needs someone to be understood. Most Artists are not in control of the woman in their lives, because they're not in control of THEMSELVES. They are usually disorganized, and completely unaware of time, etc.
THE SUCCESSFUL GUY
Someone who provides a great lifestyle and stability. The successful guy brings money and stability to the table. Most women are trying to find one of these guys to marry them. The way to demonstrate that you're a Successful Guy is to drive a nice car, live in a nice house, take her to nice dinners, and buy her gifts.
Women love them because they represent the ultimate goal of most women: Stability. Most wives would rather have a stable Rs 30, 000 a month income than have an unpredictable income of Rs 10 lac a year - spread out over 12 months with no guarantee of when in the year they'll get
it.
So Mr. Successful Guy gives them that 'Security Blanket.' Buy yourself a copy of 'The Rules' - the one that's written for women. This is the type of guy that they're teaching women to trap. So beware! ;)
DADDY
Someone who tells her what to do and controls her. Some women are very attracted to controlling men who treat them like little girls. Some women take this to an extreme and date men much older than them.
I don't know if this is an accurate observation, but a lot of really attractive, powerful women are attracted to men who control them and treat them like little girls. My opinion is that some women resent men who bow down to them, and have no respect for them.
If you're interested in learning more about this mindset, read the book 'Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns' by Philip Miller. The first 50 or 60 pages are a very interesting discussion of dominance and submission.
The following 2 personality types are not so appealing to women and at times they can act as a 'women repelent'.
THE REGULAR GUY
Someone who is down to earth, loyal and stable. The Regular Guys in the world don't get enough credit in my opinion. The fact is, most Regular Guys wind up in long term relationships with women that are like them - regular.
Regular guys work hard, run household errands and watch a lot of TV. They may start out being fun and adventurous when they're younger, but they usually settle into a more boring life. I'm sure you know a bunch of regular guys. They're married with 2.3 kids and a rectangular 3 bedroom, 2 bath house in a subdivision.
Regular Guys may start out in control of a relationship, but in almost EVERY case, the woman eventually takes control. The women starts nagging, telling him what to do, etc.
ASS KISSING GUY
Someone who gives her whatever she wants. Ass Kissing Guy is my favorite! Ass Kissing Guy follows his woman around saying "OK dear, whatever you want" and "I'm sorry" and "What's wrong sweetie?"
Ass Kissing Guy likes to use submissive body language, not look people in the eye, and act passive aggressive. Women who are dominant and controlling like to have an Ass Kissing
Guy around as a boyfriend for awhile - sometimes they even marry them. But it's not a happy life, and I wouldn't recommend it.
Now, let me ask you a quesion:
Which one most closely described you? Or which one would you like to work towards?
The best you can do is take all good things from each personality type and shape up your own unique personality. Stay tuned to know exactly how you can develop a personality that instantaneously makes you appear attractive to women.
In psychology, the term 'archetype' is used to describe a mental structure that operates on an unconscious level. I'm going to use the term 'personality types' here to describe this concept.
In a nutshell:
* I believe that women respond automatically to certain men and that most of this response is based on the man's personality, communication, achievements, etc. - not his looks (don't get me wrong. Looks are important. But they're not nearly as important in the long run as personality).
* Women are usually not consciously aware of why they react to these Personality Types.
* There are also several 'unsuccessful' personality types. By unsuccessful, I mean that these types are not attractive to most women. (If you're one of these, don't take it personally. Try
something different.)
THE BAD BOY
Someone who's dangerous and thrilling to be around. Bad boys are everything from gangsters to bikers to some rock and roll musicians. These guys are usually tough, dress tough, and act tough as often as possible. They drink, smoke, get tattoos, and generally demonstrate in every way possible that they're from the wrong side of the tracks, and your mother would not approve. A lot of these guys wind up beating their girlfriends and spending time in jail.
There is an addictive emotional rush being around a guy that could literally do ANYTHING. Anyway, I wouldn't recommend being the extreme version of this one. You can get a tattoo and buy a Harley and act all bad, but it's really not making to you a better person. I have to mention that this personality type is the one that women are most MAGNETICALLY attracted to. Again, this is because of the addictive rush that comes from being around them.
THE ADVENTURER
Someone who's fun and exciting to be around. The Adventurer is constantly looking for the next fun experience. Adventurers love to go surfing, skiing, racing, bungee-jumping, and skydiving. Think James Bond. They are fearless. Instead of being bad to get thrills, they usually like to do crazy things to get thrills. Their appeal is much the same as the Bad Boy, except that these guys don't usually wind up beating their women. Women like to be around them because they drive fast, go interesting places, and generally have a sense of 'adventure' about everything they do.
They have the attitude of "What adventure is waiting around the next corner" - even if they're just going out to lunch. Women are attracted to them because they are a kick to be around - and they often have more than one woman at a time. And women totally accept this from them. Women usually understand on an unconscious level that this is the type of guy that loves more than one woman. They have extreme optimism, which women LOVE. Again, Adventurers are usually in control in relationships, and can never be tamed. Most of the Adventurers types are known to cheat on their girlfriends.
THE SEDUCER
Someone who is sensual and sexy and makes her feel the same. Seducers are all about women. They understand women completely. As a matter of fact, I sometimes think that maybe they were women in past lives or something. To most men, a Seducer seems bizarre, and even slightly homosexual. They do things that are pretty far out. Watch the movie 'Don Juan DeMarco' with Johnny Depp. This movie is the epitome of the Seducer. Don Juan can only see the world through his romantic perspective, which is magnetic to women. Seducers are usually submissive, as they are constantly pleasing the woman, and paying careful attention to her needs.
The flip side is that as soon as they have gotten what they want from a woman, they're gone. Sure, they may come back for romantic evenings, but they are not often around for the long term.
THE ARTIST (Musician, Poet)
Someone who moves her emotions and is enigmatic and complex. Why do women love guys who have complex, introverted personalities? I believe that the answer lies inside the psyche of women. Women like to have challenges, and they like to help people. The Artist personality is both complex and in need of help and understanding.Most Artists see the world much differently than other people. They look at tree and see a giant feather duster, or they see a color and can taste it.
Women can usually understand the Artist's expressions better than other men can. And they are usually very attracted to these personalities for this very reason. The Artist needs someone to understand them, and there's always a woman who needs someone to be understood. Most Artists are not in control of the woman in their lives, because they're not in control of THEMSELVES. They are usually disorganized, and completely unaware of time, etc.
THE SUCCESSFUL GUY
Someone who provides a great lifestyle and stability. The successful guy brings money and stability to the table. Most women are trying to find one of these guys to marry them. The way to demonstrate that you're a Successful Guy is to drive a nice car, live in a nice house, take her to nice dinners, and buy her gifts.
Women love them because they represent the ultimate goal of most women: Stability. Most wives would rather have a stable Rs 30, 000 a month income than have an unpredictable income of Rs 10 lac a year - spread out over 12 months with no guarantee of when in the year they'll get
it.
So Mr. Successful Guy gives them that 'Security Blanket.' Buy yourself a copy of 'The Rules' - the one that's written for women. This is the type of guy that they're teaching women to trap. So beware! ;)
DADDY
Someone who tells her what to do and controls her. Some women are very attracted to controlling men who treat them like little girls. Some women take this to an extreme and date men much older than them.
I don't know if this is an accurate observation, but a lot of really attractive, powerful women are attracted to men who control them and treat them like little girls. My opinion is that some women resent men who bow down to them, and have no respect for them.
If you're interested in learning more about this mindset, read the book 'Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns' by Philip Miller. The first 50 or 60 pages are a very interesting discussion of dominance and submission.
The following 2 personality types are not so appealing to women and at times they can act as a 'women repelent'.
THE REGULAR GUY
Someone who is down to earth, loyal and stable. The Regular Guys in the world don't get enough credit in my opinion. The fact is, most Regular Guys wind up in long term relationships with women that are like them - regular.
Regular guys work hard, run household errands and watch a lot of TV. They may start out being fun and adventurous when they're younger, but they usually settle into a more boring life. I'm sure you know a bunch of regular guys. They're married with 2.3 kids and a rectangular 3 bedroom, 2 bath house in a subdivision.
Regular Guys may start out in control of a relationship, but in almost EVERY case, the woman eventually takes control. The women starts nagging, telling him what to do, etc.
ASS KISSING GUY
Someone who gives her whatever she wants. Ass Kissing Guy is my favorite! Ass Kissing Guy follows his woman around saying "OK dear, whatever you want" and "I'm sorry" and "What's wrong sweetie?"
Ass Kissing Guy likes to use submissive body language, not look people in the eye, and act passive aggressive. Women who are dominant and controlling like to have an Ass Kissing
Guy around as a boyfriend for awhile - sometimes they even marry them. But it's not a happy life, and I wouldn't recommend it.
Now, let me ask you a quesion:
Which one most closely described you? Or which one would you like to work towards?
The best you can do is take all good things from each personality type and shape up your own unique personality. Stay tuned to know exactly how you can develop a personality that instantaneously makes you appear attractive to women.
Cya!
-AG
-AG
PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book, who is a renowned dating guru himself.
Tuesday, April 1, 2008
The Power of Attraction
If you meet a girl and interact with her long enough for her to form an initial impression of you, and she feels no attraction for you, then THERE’S BASICALLY NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT! No amount of kicking, screaming, calling, trying, buying her things, or taking her out will do a damn thing about it.
If you meet a girl and interact with her long enough for her to form an initial impression of you, and she DOES feel attraction for you, then there’s nothing SHE can do about it! And no amount of logic, thinking about it, or peer-pressure can stop it.
In fact, some girls will endure abuse, neglect, and all kinds of other horrible things because they just can’t overcome their own emotion of attraction.
Why do girls feel strong attraction towards some guys… and in many or even most cases these guys are not rich, handsome, or famous? Because they CAN’T HELP IT.
Why do girls feel zero attraction for some guys, even though they have all of the outward appearances of the ideal man? Because they CAN’T HELP IT.
Think about that for a second or two....
A girl feels these things because she can’t help it. She can’t do anything about it. To her, it’s experienced as just HAPPENING. It's not wrong to say that attraction is a mechanism that is stronger than logic, stronger than reason, stronger than a parent’s warning and even stronger than bad experiences.
People will do things that are totally irrational and exactly opposite of what’s good for them when they’re under the influence of Attraction. But the fact is that attraction is neither good nor bad. It just is.
Attraction Is Selfish
Attraction works in very selfish ways. Attraction is not concerned with the feelings of others. Attraction is designed to hijack a human mind and body for its own ends.
Attraction is either on or it’s off. You either feel it or you don’t. If a woman doesn’t feel it for you, she probably never will. And if she does feel it, no amount of reasoning and logic will change how she feels.
Men, Women and Attraction
I can remember throughout my school/college days, I used to believe that being a "nice guy" was the way to make a girl like me. I believed that if you were "nice" and she didn't like you, it was probably just because she didn't think you were handsome enough, rich enough, or whatever.... and that there was nothing you were going to do about it.
I mean, doesn't it make sense that a woman should be attracted to a guy who treats her well, is attentive, is sensitive to her feelings, gives her what she wants, buys her gifts, etc.? Of course it does. It makes LOGICAL sense. But when I really started to pay close attention to what was happening in the REAL WORLD, I started to notice a few things:
1. Women would tend to break up with me, play hard to get, and generally not be happy and satisfied when I treated them "overly nice". Being overly “nice” seemed to be the enemy of attraction.
2. My "nice" friends weren't the ones who were attracting all the girls... it was the other "bad boy" guys that seemed to be getting all the attention from the girls.
As I started to put the pieces of the puzzle together over a few years, I began to realize that:
1. Attraction isn't a process that happens by "choice". In other words, a girl doesn't start talking to a guy and say to herself, "Wow, this guy seems very smart and funny... just the type of guy that I've been looking for... I think I'll feel attracted to him."
2. Attraction happens at an unconscious level as an automatic emotional response to certain things. For guys, attraction usually happens in response to a beautiful face n a nice body. For women, it usually happens for other reasons (although it can n does happen on occasion for physical reasons alone).
3. There are a lot of guys who are average looking, average height, average income, etc. who have above average success with girls.
4. The "nicest" guys aren't usually the ones to whom girls are attracted to...
5. We humans, for the most part, are not in control of our "attraction mechanisms" (or other emotions, for that matter)... in other words, when we are attracted to someone else, it takes control of us n there's almost NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT.
If you ask most girls what they "want" in a man, they'll say, "Oh, I want a nice, honest, thoughtful guy who cares for me and treat me a like a princess n blah blah..." And the truth is, this IS what most girls "want". But strangely, there's a big difference between what women "want" n what makes a woman feel ATTRACTION.
So the moral here is: If you are in love with a girl, you should STOP trying to make her fall in love with you. Instead, you should do things that can invoke a STRONG sense of ATTRACTION towards you. That's it..!!!
I'll talk about things that create/kill ATTRACTION in the coming posts.
-AG
PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book. David is a renowned dating guru himself.
If you meet a girl and interact with her long enough for her to form an initial impression of you, and she DOES feel attraction for you, then there’s nothing SHE can do about it! And no amount of logic, thinking about it, or peer-pressure can stop it.
In fact, some girls will endure abuse, neglect, and all kinds of other horrible things because they just can’t overcome their own emotion of attraction.
Why do girls feel strong attraction towards some guys… and in many or even most cases these guys are not rich, handsome, or famous? Because they CAN’T HELP IT.
Why do girls feel zero attraction for some guys, even though they have all of the outward appearances of the ideal man? Because they CAN’T HELP IT.
Think about that for a second or two....
A girl feels these things because she can’t help it. She can’t do anything about it. To her, it’s experienced as just HAPPENING. It's not wrong to say that attraction is a mechanism that is stronger than logic, stronger than reason, stronger than a parent’s warning and even stronger than bad experiences.
People will do things that are totally irrational and exactly opposite of what’s good for them when they’re under the influence of Attraction. But the fact is that attraction is neither good nor bad. It just is.
Attraction Is Selfish
Attraction works in very selfish ways. Attraction is not concerned with the feelings of others. Attraction is designed to hijack a human mind and body for its own ends.
Attraction is either on or it’s off. You either feel it or you don’t. If a woman doesn’t feel it for you, she probably never will. And if she does feel it, no amount of reasoning and logic will change how she feels.
Men, Women and Attraction
I can remember throughout my school/college days, I used to believe that being a "nice guy" was the way to make a girl like me. I believed that if you were "nice" and she didn't like you, it was probably just because she didn't think you were handsome enough, rich enough, or whatever.... and that there was nothing you were going to do about it.
I mean, doesn't it make sense that a woman should be attracted to a guy who treats her well, is attentive, is sensitive to her feelings, gives her what she wants, buys her gifts, etc.? Of course it does. It makes LOGICAL sense. But when I really started to pay close attention to what was happening in the REAL WORLD, I started to notice a few things:
1. Women would tend to break up with me, play hard to get, and generally not be happy and satisfied when I treated them "overly nice". Being overly “nice” seemed to be the enemy of attraction.
2. My "nice" friends weren't the ones who were attracting all the girls... it was the other "bad boy" guys that seemed to be getting all the attention from the girls.
As I started to put the pieces of the puzzle together over a few years, I began to realize that:
1. Attraction isn't a process that happens by "choice". In other words, a girl doesn't start talking to a guy and say to herself, "Wow, this guy seems very smart and funny... just the type of guy that I've been looking for... I think I'll feel attracted to him."
2. Attraction happens at an unconscious level as an automatic emotional response to certain things. For guys, attraction usually happens in response to a beautiful face n a nice body. For women, it usually happens for other reasons (although it can n does happen on occasion for physical reasons alone).
3. There are a lot of guys who are average looking, average height, average income, etc. who have above average success with girls.
4. The "nicest" guys aren't usually the ones to whom girls are attracted to...
5. We humans, for the most part, are not in control of our "attraction mechanisms" (or other emotions, for that matter)... in other words, when we are attracted to someone else, it takes control of us n there's almost NOTHING WE CAN DO ABOUT IT.
If you ask most girls what they "want" in a man, they'll say, "Oh, I want a nice, honest, thoughtful guy who cares for me and treat me a like a princess n blah blah..." And the truth is, this IS what most girls "want". But strangely, there's a big difference between what women "want" n what makes a woman feel ATTRACTION.
So the moral here is: If you are in love with a girl, you should STOP trying to make her fall in love with you. Instead, you should do things that can invoke a STRONG sense of ATTRACTION towards you. That's it..!!!
I'll talk about things that create/kill ATTRACTION in the coming posts.
-AG
PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book. David is a renowned dating guru himself.
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