Tuesday, April 22, 2008

Why you should NOT be NICE to women?

I know a lot of guys who tell me, "I know this girl who's beautiful, smart n attractive. She and I are great friends, we have everything in common n we get along perfectly... but she says that she's just not attracted to me..."

Have you ever noticed that:

1) The most attractive and interesting women seem to be attracted to men who don't treat them "very" well?

2) That the "nicer" you are to a woman the more she often seems to act like "just a friend" to you?

What's going on here? Didn't mom say to be"nice" to girls?

Here's the deal: Women aren't usually romantically attracted to "nice" guys. Women are attracted to men who are funny, confident and mysterious. Good looks don't hurt, but if you're not 6'2" tall and model-handsome, then you have to learn how to attract women with ur personality. And being "nice" isn't going to do it for you.

Actually...

1) Women make decisions very, very quickly about whether a man is going to be "just a friend" or if he has romantic potential and once her decision is made, it's probably going to stay made.

2) These decisions are made "subconsciously," meaning that women make all of them quickly n at a "gut level."

3) If you know how, you make her feel attraction feelings rather than "friend" feelings.

4) The way to do it is to stop acting "nice" and start acting, well... something else... and I don't mean "not nice."

So what DOES attract women? And how do you do it exactly?

At the beginning, I mentioned three qualities: Funny, Confident, and Mysterious.

Before I talk about each, I first have to remind you that WOMEN DON'T USUALLY MAKE SENSE. Remember that.

As much as many women would hate to admit it, there's something very attractive about a man who is just a little more confident than he should be. And if you combine this with the right amount of humor, you have a magic combination that will charm almost any woman.

Here are a few ways to use this idea:

1) When you first meet a woman, tease her about something. It doesn't matter what it is, as long as you do it early on. For example, you might say: "So what's with the big purse? Are you carrying a gun in there?"

If you tease a woman, it shows that you're not intimidated by her, and that you have a fun sense of humor. KEY: Make sure you say something FUNNY. Remember, if she's not laughing, then it wasn't funny!

2) Look around at other things and seem kind of pre-occupied when you first start talking to her. Make your funny remarks with a carefree, detached tone. You want to sound like you're talking to your best friend.

Attractive women are approached all the time. It's not attractive to a woman when you look like you've just met Aishwarya Bachchan ;)

3) Don't answer her questions directly. Women love to ask questions like: "What do you do?" and "Where do you live?" and "Tell me about ur family." Come back with funny answers and don't give her what she wants. Most guys say, "Oh, I'm an engineer" or "I'm a student." BORING, BORING.

If she asks what you do... say, "I'm a model... I've done modelling for the big brands like Jockey and Hanes!" (This is especially funny if it's OBVIOUS that you are NOT a model) Do you get it? Keep it up and keep her laughing.

It's important to remember that I'm not telling you to be mean, or to be a jerk to women. I'm telling you to start being confident, funny and mysterious.

If this is starting to make sense to you and you'd like to know more keep a watch on the coming posts.

-AG

PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book. David is a renowned dating guru himself.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Thats exactly what I did and lost N. And I know that its never gonna happen again :)

IndiaAnalytics said...

Boss this is very very true.-- Keep Inspiring -- Manav

Attraction Guru said...

thnx 4 sharing ur viewpoint Manav. stay tuned for more!

-D

Anonymous said...

hi,i thank u very much for giving me the best idyas......

PooP said...

you are brilliant!!! dont stop :)!! i cant wait to read your next post