Now this sounds like an interesting topic, doesn't it? Why wud u want to know how to LOSE a girl? Well, I feel that u are probably already an EXPERT in LOSING a girl. You might even be a "natural" at it. Most guys are. But the PROBLEM is that most guys don't understand why they're so good at LOSING women.
In other words, they walk through the world screwing up one situation after another n never realize just how GOOD they are at being BAD wid women. One great way to increase ur success in life is to start realizing what u're doing. Once u actually understand what u're doing & the results u're triggering, u can CHANGE. So open ur mind & listen up.
TYPICAL THINGS MEN DO:
MEN ARE PREDICTABLE. In fact, we're PAINFULLY predictable. We all do basically the same things when we get into common situations wid girls & we don't even realize it. In our desire to be "original" & "unique," we guys tend to do the SAME THINGS! Said differently, while u're doing something that seems thoughtful & original, the attractive woman on the other end is thinking, "He's just like the other 100 losers, who hit on me every now and then."
Ouch!!! One of the VERY BEST ways to lose a girl is to be PREDICTABLE. Another huge mistake men make is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women. I'm not going to get into details but the reality is that women are NOT attracted to WEAK men. Yes, I'm not talking about muscles here.
Here are a few examples of how we guys act PREDICTABLE, give away our power & make about 157 other BIG mistakes wid women we've just met.
1) Call Her All The Time
If u like someone, it's logical that u're going to want to let them know, right? Calling all the time is usually triggered by INSECURITY & NEEDINESS. It sounds like a good idea, but it almost NEVER is. This is a great way to lose a girl before u even have her.
2) Offer To Take Her To A "Nice" Place
What do most guys do when they meet a girl that they "really" like? Well, they call her up, & they get into a boring conversation about schools n families n jobs n 100 other painfully boring things... and when they finally realize that they've been on the phone for an hour, they realize that they'd better do SOMETHING soon...because she's starting to talk about having to take her dog for a walk....
So what do they do? They think to themselves, "You'd better get up some nerve & ask her to go out wid u to a REALLY NICE place. She'll be far more likely to want to do that, and besides, then she'll know that u REALLY like her...."
And what does this REALLY communicate? Right, right. That u have the confidence to just ask her to spend time wid u for NO REASON other than the fact that u want to... and that u must not be WORTH spending time wid - without some kind of "meal incentive" ;)
3) Do "Thoughtful" and "Nice" Things From The Very Beginning
I hate it when that happens! But we guys do this kind of thing all the time...because it sure sounds good in the moment. If u come on too strong, u appear just like every other predictable guy who has ever tried to make himself look better by giving gifts, food & favors in exchange for her attention n approval.
4) Tell Her How You "Feel" About Her As Soon As You Possibly Can
I feel that we guys must come stock wid a mechanism that actually compels us to open our BIG FAT MOUTHS & screw things up wid only the most attractive women. For some UNKNOWN & UNGODLY reason, men just seem to LOVE telling attractive women how they FEEL within the first couple of dates. When u do this u're making all kinds of huge mistakes n basically doing everything u can do to LOSE her.
5) Keep Telling Her How You Feel When She Actually Needs Space
You've met a girl u really like. Maybe u've gone out wid her a few times. Doesn't matter. You do all the things u can think of to SCREW IT UP & u finally succeed. You prove to her that u just don't get it & u don't know how to handle a woman like her. So she says, "I need some space" or "I need some time to think."
And what do most guys do? Of course, KEEP telling her how they feel & they do it in 1000 annoying ways. The thought that most guys have is, "If she only understood how I REALLY FELT ABOUT HER and how MUCH I NEED HER then she wud LOVE ME."
So there u have it. A chunk of the magic formula for losing a girl fast. Interesting, isn't it?
If u really want some help to FIX this CRUCIAL part of ur life stay tuned with the coming posts.
-AG
PS: This excerpt is an edited version from a David De Angelo's book. David is a renowned dating guru himself.
Friday, March 28, 2008
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